Symptom #7 Assuming that if he had HIV, he would tell you.

HIV does not have symptoms. But what does have symptoms is the social stigma against those who have HIV. Because of this, it is logical that someone HIV-positive would not want to tell you. The reasons for not disclosing can be the fear of rejection or loss of that loved one. It is a question for each couple to determine their level of trust and sincerity, but before sincerity is our own personal health, something that is our exclusive responsibility.  Having unprotected sex and getting infected is the exclusive responsibility of he who gets infected; anything else is just avoiding the issue.